Our family recently made a decision to home school our children. For years we have struggled with public school and the lack of success our Daughter was having within the system. She was getting behind on a regular basis. She had no interesting in learning and often lamented that she felt dumb or stupid for not understanding what was being taught. She would often have temper tantrums over homework and was frustrated because her homework was much more than her class mates because she could never seem to get the work done on time in the classroom.
We have been told many times that we should have our daughter assessed for some kind of mental disability that prevents her from learning in the pre-determined state approved format and classrooms because of these struggles. A school Doctor came in and had her “assessed” only to tell me that she had a learning disability but could not say what that was even. He was not a psychiatrist just some kind of learning psychologist or counselor of some kind so he did not use the DSM of mental disorders to diagnosis her. The funny thing was when I reviewed the material with her at home she came to understand it quite clearly and well. In fact nearly perfectly every time but in the classroom all that understanding seemed to disappear only to be replaced with failure after failure to demonstrate her understanding. In fact when I questioned him along with the school principal and her teacher they defaulted to the fact that she has a “learning disability” which they could not even explain to me themselves. Never at any point was the learning environment and methods questioned. Never did they suggest or even investigate if the learning environment somehow contributed to her lack of learning ability they stated she has.
I have written in the past on numerous occasions why I will not take my kids to a psychiatrist to be diagnosed. I refuse to subject my children to the drugs and medial profession that caused so much harm to me as a child. If you were to look at the DSM, the bible of psychiatry for medical diagnosis my daughter would fit the ADHD description perfectly. The DSM defines ADHD with at least 6 of these symptoms for attention deficit and 6 of these symptoms for hyperactivity. In bold are behaviors that my daughter has demonstrated and matches. Even my 5-year-old exhibits some of these “symptoms”
- Often fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, at work, or with other activities.
- Often has trouble holding attention on tasks or play activities.
- Often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly.
- Often does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties in the workplace (e.g., loses focus, side-tracked).
- Often has trouble organizing tasks and activities.
- Often avoids, dislikes, or is reluctant to do tasks that require mental effort over a long period of time (such as schoolwork or homework).
- Often loses things necessary for tasks and activities (e.g. school materials, pencils, books, tools, wallets, keys, paperwork, eyeglasses, mobile telephones).
- Is often easily distracted
- Is often forgetful in daily activities.
- Often fidgets with or taps hands or feet, or squirms in seat.
- Often leaves seat in situations when remaining seated is expected.
- Often runs about or climbs in situations where it is not appropriate (adolescents or adults may be limited to feeling restless).
- Often unable to play or take part in leisure activities quietly.
- Is often “on the go” acting as if “driven by a motor”.
- Often talks excessively.
- Often blurts out an answer before a question has been completed.
- Often has trouble waiting his/her turn.
- Often interrupts or intrudes on others (e.g., butts into conversations or games)
With that these conditions must be met
- Several inattentive or hyperactive-impulsive symptoms were present before age 12 years.
- Several symptoms are present in two or more setting, (e.g., at home, school or work; with friends or relatives; in other activities).
- There is clear evidence that the symptoms interfere with, or reduce the quality of, social, school, or work functioning.
- The symptoms do not happen only during the course of schizophrenia or another psychotic disorder. The symptoms are not better explained by another mental disorder (e.g. Mood Disorder, Anxiety Disorder, Dissociative Disorder, or a Personality Disorder).
If you take some time to actually read the symptoms of this feigned mental disease of the mind, you will see that in fact it describes in reality, normal and even expected childhood behaviors. I have yet to meet a child that did not exhibit all of these behaviors at some point. I can assure you my children are not the only children I have met.
So as to the question you might be asking is how has home school cured ADHD. Well first off my daughter does not have ADHD because it does not exist. It is about as real as unicorns and dragons. Imaginary illness dreamed up by big pharmaceutical companies so they can sell more drugs. You see with mental illness there is no medical test that can be performed to confirm the diagnosis. It is simply observation of behaviors and an associated drug to change said behavior with devastating consequences of chemical manipulation of your brain and body, which of course lead to more drugs to treat the problems the first drugs gave you. It’s win win win for big pharma and lose lose lose for their victim.
After we took our daughter out of public school to focus her education in a way that works for her and took back control of her education something amazing happened. Her behavioral outburst has become much less often. She is more focused on learning and even going out of her way to pick up her material to do her work. She is more focused and even happy about learning.
She is getting enough sleep and as a result has been happier and much more cooperative. She listens more and does her chores while still reluctantly, with a lot less arguing and fighting. Not only that she has been more effective at doing the tasks assigned to her and done a better job with them as well.
She is happier, more productive and cooperative, more focused and able to actually learn. Her school work has gone from being low 50% correct answers to 80% plus correct with those things she gets wrong relatively minor. She is starting to enjoy reading and writing and even going out of her way to do so while before she hated it and often would get angry and frustrated when I asked her to do so.
We have only been homeschooling for 2 months now but the change in her overall behavior, school work and other aspects has been tremendous. If I had known 12 years ago what I know now I would never have put my daughter in public school to begin with.
The public system has become toxic to childhood learning development, at least in the case of my daughter.
Despite all the opposition I have received from family and Friends and acquaintances in our decision to home school the results in just this short-term have proven that this so far was the right decision. we are so blessed to be in a country where we can legally home school our kids and take back control of their education. With so much resource material and curriculum published online for their grade levels. home schooling is easier than ever. There are so many social groups and home school groups that give near limitless opportunity to ensure our kids are not only learning effectively but are still able to make friends and socialize with kids of all ages without the restrains of a boxed classroom environment.
I will add that public school has had tremendous benefit in that it has helped to ensure a more highly educated population, and now that we have so much material and understanding and resources parents can now educate their children to the same level or higher than the public school offers. Public school has taught parents how to provide a better education to their kids. Sadly however it has become a state controlled environment that lacks in flexibility, is underfunded and tries to force conformity with little to no accountability to parents for children’s failings. When a child fails in public school the parents tend to take the blame for not working with their kids to help them succeed, when they succeed the school sits back to take all the glory and praise for that success.
Public school has acted as a stepping stone for parents to bring their children to a higher level of education. It has helped build a society that is literate and well educated, Where as before only the elite were able to access education and literacy. Because of This, parents, after generations of public school as the primary form of education in society, can now take back control of children’s education and continue to provide that high quality education without the help of the government and we can continue to advance society while catering to each child’s unique learning style one on one. Simply put I have come to believe that public education has run it course of usefulness and is no longer needed.
Sometimes like medicine you have to suffer temporarily to bring about something better. That is what public school has taught me. It is important to learn when it is time to stop taking the medicine of public school before it causes more harm than good.